Religious Symbology & School Dress Codes
So this past weekend was the Beltane Brouhaha in Kings Mountain State Park. I will post pics soon, we had an amazing time! Anyhow I had pulled Molly out of school last Friday for us to leave mid-day for the event. We had some last minute cleaning and packing to do all that morning. While there Molly found a fondness for pentagrams/pentacles and tarot cards. So she has her first pentagram necklace and her first deck of tarot cards (now to find someone to teach us how to use them!).
She asked me if she could wear her necklace to school. Ahhhh such a simple question. Living in the bible belt automatically nixes the simplicity. I know her teacher is a Unitarian Universalist and Molly has mentioned her pagan tendencies in the classroom. So she has never felt the need to hide it…that part makes me happy. However most of us know the negative connotations that come with pentagram. So what does one do?
After thinking about it I told her yes she could. However we discussed the possiblities of what may happen when she wears it. Perhaps this is very wrong of me but I told her if anyone asked what it was she was to say it was a star with a glass stone. Nothing more. And if someone asked if it was a pentagram then she should be honest and say yes. I don’t want her to lie persay just lay low. I don’t know if that is the right thing to do or not. She has already dealt with some backlash for her momma being pagan, but for her to show this outright may bring that backlash onto her instead of me.
If the school calls me over it I am going to stand up for her and stand our ground. I cannot say that I recall any child in that school wearing any religious jewelry. But I checked the dress code. It does say “Dress Code is built on societal expectations that dress should be appropriate to the mission of the institution. Any clothing that unduly distracts from the normal operation of the school is inappropriate for school”. It goes on about CLOTHES not jewelry. So now I am not sure if they would lump jewelry in there or not. I do know my girls have gone to school with bracelets, small earrings and small rings in the past. Nothing big and flashy or anything like that. So….would the school pull the “societal expectations” card and say that crosses are ok and pentagrams are not? Not fair in my book. If one religious symbol is not allowed then none should be. And honestly, I want all religious symbols to be allowed….not one more thing taken away from them. So that leaves me in a stuck position (hypothetically since this has yet to happen lol). Do you fight for the right of your child to wear their religious jewelry and possibly all kids losing their right to wear their religious jewelry….or do you allow “societal expectations” to walk all over you and you sit quietly by forcing your child back into the broom closet (which she has never felt the need to be in, in the first place)?
I guess we shall see how this plays out in the future. Hubs thinks that nothing will happen because he thinks her generation as a whole is not as religious as ours or the generation before us. Perhaps he is right? I think that maybe the kids won’t care but one mention of seeing a pentagram at school to mom or dad may cause phone calls. Let’s hope nothing comes of it at all.